Celebration of Love – Gift #5 by Jewell R. Powell
To Submit Biblically is a person who can surrender their will to others and to God. We honor God when we submit to others.
“Be submissive to every human institution and authority for the sake of the Lord, …For it is God’s will…; but [live at all times] as servants of God. Show respect for all men [treat them honorably]. Love the brotherhood. Reverence God. Honor the king” (1 Peter 2:13-17)
Biblical submission is to voluntarily yield in love and a willingness to consider another person’s need more important than our own. I learned that we can honor God (Whom we have not seen) by honoring our brethren (especially our spouses), whom we have seen.
“In the true spirit of humility let each regard the others as better than and superior to himself…Let this same attitude and purpose and [humble] mind be in you which was in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 2:4-5)
Honor your spouse over the next 4 days (i.e. consider their needs more important than your own or if they ask you for anything, do it or send them a free ecard)
Rocky Valentine’s Day: How to Revive a Marriage on Cupid Day and Beyond From gifts of flowers and chocolates to candlelight dinners and mushy cards, Valentine’s Day is supposed to be the ultimate love day. However, many married couples may find themselves in a romantic rut, but this cupid-filled holiday, we want to put the spark back into a lifeless marriage so that you can experience romance not only on V-Day but on every day of the year.
Jewell Powell’s new book, written with a Sleeping Beauty twist, Marriage 101: Building a Life Together by Faith shares the ups and downs of marriage and how on the brink of divorce she was able to turn it around by understanding that marriage is not a fairy tale. Her favorite quote comes from Mignon McLaughlin: “A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.” But how can you fall in love again with the same person? Consider these easy ways to get things moving in the right direction:
1. Learn what makes your spouse feel loved and then do that. You may have to directly ask which behaviors and actions s/he desires from you.
2. Start dating your spouse again. Whether it is in the dining room, your bedroom after the kids are in bed or out at a special restaurant, dress up and smell nice. Make an effort to find creative ways to date your spouse. For example, feeding each other chocolate covered fruit while sitting on the couch and listening to soft music by candlelight.
3. Spend more time with your spouse-find one thing that you can do with your spouse. For example, if your spouse loves to watch football on the weekends and in the past you have been annoyed, try to change your perspective and learn about football and his favorite teams so you can cuddle up on the couch and share a game. Or perhaps your spouse loves musical theatre and you have a tendency to drag your feet. Surprise her with tickets and do your best to enjoy the experience, because you know this will make her happy.
4. Flirt! Remember calling them on the phone and telling them how much you love them, sending them love notes, patting them on the butt and using loving terms such as ‘honey’ or ‘my love’ Do that again! Your spouse may be really surprised at first, but it will inevitably cause him or her to become more playful, thus, kicking up the spice in your relationship a notch. Powell decided to rebuild her marriage based on the lessons she learned. Since she and her husband reconciled their own marriage, the Powells are passionate about helping other couples. They started the “Happily Ever After” Marriage Ministry which equips and empowers couples to overcome their challenges that so often cause marriages to end in divorce.
(c) 2009 by Jewell R. Powell
Jewell R. PowellAuthor, Marriage 101