Eradicating Domestic Violence
by Michael Taylor
As the story of Chris Brown and Rihanna’s domestic dispute continues to make headlines, it brings attention to a very important challenge facing America today. Although the primary issue appears to be about men abusing women, the real tragedy is that men are abusing children in addition to abusing each other as well.
These are complex questions with no simple answers but I do believe that there are solutions to these challenges. It is my opinion that the first thing we must do is begin A New Conversation With Men. In this new conversation, men will recognize that what is needed is a new paradigm of masculinity. In this new paradigm men will begin an internal dialog that will assist them in understanding the origins of their behavior and how to change it. It will teach men the importance of understanding their emotions and how their emotions drive their behavior.
The primary message in this new conversation is that only a hurt person will hurt another person. This is the foundation of all violence. Hurt people hurting other people. Men hurt and unfortunately most of them are unconscious of the hidden pain in their hearts. Until we acknowledge this very simple fact we will never eliminate violence from our society. Some will interpret this as making excuses for the perpetrator, but the reality is, if we want to rid ourselves of violence we must address the emotional and psychological origins of that violence. At the core of all violent acts is the emotion of anger and to resolve violence we must understand it’s foundation. Men must learn that they can have unconscious hurts that cause them to hurt others and it isn’t until they heal that hurt that they can break the cycle of violence. This hurt is oftentimes generational and has been passed down from father to son. It is what is meant by the quote “The sins of the father will be passed on to the son.”
To break this cycle we must begin this new conversation. Men must be made aware of the fact that there is never justification for a man to physically hurt the people he is supposed to love and protect. They must hold themselves accountable for their actions and the only way for them to stop hurting others is to stop the pain that is hurting them. This means that they must engage in healing their emotions and coming to new understandings about what it means to be a man. As men gain these new understandings they must also learn the meaning of forgiveness and how forgiveness is the catalyst for their healing and transformation. Men must be willing to first and foremost forgive themselves for their shortcomings and secondly they must seek forgiveness from the people they have hurt. This does not mean that the victim will accept the men back into their lives, it means that the victims will be able to let go of any emotional pain that is left over from the initial physical pain. Forgiveness does not condone the act of violence it simply sets the victim free from it.
Violence is learned behavior, it isn’t genetic or biological. If it is learned, that means it can be unlearned. The key to this new learning is a new conversation with men.
Michael Taylor Biography
Michael Taylor is a self-educated entrepreneur, author, personal coach and radio show host. He is President & CEO of Creation Publishing Group, a company that publishes and promotes books and seminars that empower men to reach their full potential. He has been facilitating workshops and seminars for over fifteen years and he has inspired thousands through his books, seminars and radio program. He is a proud father of three grown children, is happily married and resides in Houston, Texas.
Book: A New Conversation with Men
“Men hate each other because they fear each other, and they fear each because they don’t know each other; they don’t know each other because they are often separated from each other.” —Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
Is it possible to: Teach men to become great fathers? Encourage men to become better husbands? Teach men to live with passion and purpose? Get men involved in improving their communities? Join entrepreneur, author, motivational speaker, and radio-show host Michael Taylor as he shares how creating a new paradigm of masculinity can help heal America.
This book is written to inspire men of all ethnicities, ages, socio-economic levels, and religions to come together to redefine manhood and to eradicate the multiplicity of challenges facing America today. Its intention is to remove the separation among men and remove the hatred, fear, and distrust that too many men feel about each other. It is a powerful, inspirational document written to educate, motivate, and inspire all men to reach their full potential. Join the conversation, and become a part of the revolution!