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Our Time to Rise Up By Raye Mitchell

Our Time to Rise Up By Raye Mitchell

The Urgent Need to Reconfigure Leadership Platforms for Black Women and Girls

Make no mistake. Young Black women and girls are under siege. We are being silenced and we are losing generational connections, intra generational connectivity, and our visibility. The gender uprising that is calling for more women in leadership and access to the c-suite is not about increasing the number of Black women or women of color in leadership. The fight for gender equality is not about us. We are supplemental to the conversation and perspectives at best and left out of core leadership decisions for the most part.

 

About the Author
Dr. Raye Mitchell is an award winning humanitarian passionate about supporting women and girls. She is a Harvard Law School and University of Southern California graduate who commits her time, energy and creativity to public speaking on women and girl as global leaders. She is a published author and entertainment producer. Dr. Raye Mitchell is a real-life “fixer”, and innovation expert who helps people create breakthrough impacts. As an inspirational speaker, Dr. Mitchell works with individuals and corporate clients to train and inspire women to lead forward as next generation global leaders.

A successful entrepreneur, Dr. Mitchell is now acclaimed as an entertainment producer and social entrepreneur recognized for her contributions in mentoring girls and young women to become global leaders. She is the author of several books, most recently “Invisible No More: Empowering Young Black Women and Girls to Rise-Up as Leaders”, “When They Go Low, We Go High: How Women of Color Master the Art of Persuasion to Win Big Battles”, “How Women Negotiate From a Position of Strength: Protecting Branding and Intellectual Property Rights”, “Obstruction of Justice: Finding Grandma’s Bible”, and “The Laws of the New Game Changers: How to Make Breakthrough Impacts That Take You Forward”.

Dr. Mitchell is developing new entertainment projects and writing her next book on how women and girls can advance themselves, our community and as global leaders.

 

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Books by Dr. Raye Mitchell
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Black Women How Did We Get Here? By Raye Mitchell

A word of caution, my thoughts are intended to be provocative and to spark difficult follow-up conversations.

First, the march toward “multiculturalism” and the inviting term “women of color” has allowed our identities to be superseded and lost. The use of such aggregated words suggest unity and that we are stronger together, but in fact we may be weakening our negotiating positions. When we consistently merge under a group identity, we risk losing our unique and individual contributions and voices.

Second, while we have mastered the art of the “mass conference, we have failed to master the art of continuity, increased touch points, and on-demand interventions. Major conferences can be well crafted, enormous in production value, fabulous in esprit de corps, and well stocked with high-profile celebrity and big-name panel members and prestigious keynote speakers. The downside is that a mass conference can silence individuality and is one point in time with no known touch points until the next annual conference. Conferences are grand; continuity is preferred to enable lasting changes and transformations, and to keep the conversation and action plans moving forward.

Third, our needs are being filtered and translated for us as opposed to building our own platforms, agenda, and forging alliances where we have a seat at the leadership table. I call this the law of “well-intendedness.” Many majority women’s group’s conference leaders are or want to appear well intended and focused on diversity inclusion.

However, mere diversity inclusion does not translate to diverse leadership platforms or targeted agenda. We are included, but often lack power and control over the look and feel of the very programs that are supposed to empower us. We are both visible and highly invisible at the same time.

What are your thoughts on diversity inclusion? Share with us ways to master the art of continuity, increase touch point support and on-demand interventions.

 

About the Author and Speaker
Dr. Raye Mitchell is the founder of the New Reality Foundation, Inc., and CEO at the Winning Edge Institute Inc. She is a power and influence expert, attorney, author, speaker and activist. Mitchell is a member of the Time’s Up Legal Defense Fund network providing legal support for women and girls affected by harassment. Mitchell has received national acclaim for her work mentoring women and girls of color to beat the odds and excel as leaders.

Mitchell is a graduate of Harvard Law School, the University of Southern California (USC), the USC Sol Price School of Public Policy (B.S.) and the USC Marshall School of Business (MBA). She is a native of Los Angeles, California.

 

Books by Dr. Raye Mitchell
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How Do We Change the Status Quo? By Raye Mitchell

Our Time to Rise Up By Raye Mitchell

The Urgent Need to Reconfigure Leadership Platforms for Black Women and Girls

 Make no mistake. Young Black women and girls are under siege. We are being silenced and we are losing generational connections, intra generational connectivity, and our visibility. The gender uprising that is calling for more women in leadership and access to the c-suite is not about increasing the number of Black women or women of color in leadership. The fight for gender equality is not about us. We are supplemental to the conversation and perspectives at best and left out of core leadership decisions for the most part.

 

How Did We Get Here?

A word of caution, my thoughts are intended to be provocative and to spark difficult follow-up conversations. First, the march toward “multiculturalism” and the inviting term “women of color” has allowed our identities to be superseded and lost.  The use of such aggregated words suggest unity and that we are stronger together, but in fact we may be weakening our negotiating positions. When we consistently merge under a group identity, we risk losing our unique and individual contributions and voices.

Second, while we have mastered the art of the “mass conference, we have failed to master the art of continuity, increased touch points, and on-demand interventions.   Major conferences can be well crafted, enormous in production value, fabulous in esprit de corps, and well stocked with high-profile celebrity and big-name panel members and prestigious keynote speakers.  The downside is that a mass conference can silence individuality and is one point in time with no known touch points until the next annual conference. Conferences are grand; continuity is preferred to enable lasting changes and transformations, and to keep the conversation and action plans moving forward.

Third, our needs are being filtered and translated for us as opposed to building our own platforms, agenda, and forging alliances where we have a seat at the leadership table. I call this the law of “well-intendedness.”  Many majority women’s group’s conference leaders are or want to appear well intended and focused on diversity inclusion. However, mere diversity inclusion does not translate to diverse leadership platforms or targeted agenda. We are included, but often lack power and control over the look and feel of the very programs that are supposed to empower us. We are both visible and highly invisible at the same time.

 

How Do We Change the Status Quo?

I focus on assisting young Black women and girls master the ability to rise-up and brand themselves in their authentic leadership persona.

R.I.S.E.-UP™ is a solution-based concept founded on building our personal brands, increasing touch points and forging new alliances for young Black women and girls. RISE-UP is a branded rallying call not dissimilar to Lean-In. RISE-UP stands for reclaiming our obligations to mentoring and training the next generation of young Black women and girls by leveraging research to increase impact, real world solutions, and continuous engagements.

RISE-UP is an action-based concept to nourish a new generation of Black female leaders and speaks to the needs of Black women and girls who do not seek the traditional corporate c-suite career path. In reality, the true “c-suite” for these millennial young Black women is connected to another set of Cs—the ability to be competitive, confident, and competent and to contribute as change leaders and independent entrepreneurs in charge of their own futures.

R.I.S.E.-Up is about presence, persistence, and the power to lead change, to resolve conflicts, to negotiate deals, and to build personal brands as highly visible leaders and influencers. Recognizing that young Black women influencers want to be at the top of their game, we know that mastering grace under fire is both skill and art. Rise-Up is about enhancing our ability to trade inside secrets and build collaborations in real time so that we can maintain our integrity when locked in tough negotiations and critical battles that we encounter every day in a wide range of power struggles to advance ourselves.

We have reached a tipping point where we need to reclaim our agenda, reengineer our personal brands, and set our own leadership platforms on a path forward. We cannot continue to subsume and merge our needs into majority organizational programs in hopes that they will meet our needs. Black women do not need to lean-in. Black women have been leaning in long before the concept became popular. We cannot continue to follow advice and counsel that are not based on our root experiences. We have to be more protective of our intellectual capital and our personal brands by being willing to invest in and believe in our own programs before we invest resources in other platforms. It is time for young Black women to replace the call to lean-in with the drive to rise up, supporting our unique personas, needs, challenges, and opportunities.

 

You have the power to drive your personal brand, how will you rise up?  Here are some thoughts to consider:

  1. Before registering for that next mass conference or Black women empowerment conference in 2018, ask the organizers to outline their maintenance and continuity programs. If they do not have one, are you prepared to build your own?
  2. How can you revise your personal brand in the context of inventing a vibrant new plan to rise-up?

 

 

 


About the Author

Raye Mitchell is on a mission.  Mitchell is committed to being part of the amazing journey and united efforts to help young Black women and girls assert their power and their presence.  For far too long their voices have been muted, their stories ignored and their experiences have been rendered invisible.  Mitchell wants to help build bridges and lend to a positive effort to find peace and common ground based on mutual respect, equality and share visions of justice and inclusion.

Mitchell is the founder of the New Reality Foundation, Inc., and CEO at the Winning Edge Institute Inc. She is a power and influence expert, attorney, author, speaker and activist.  Mitchell is a member of the Time’s Up Legal Defense Fund network providing legal support for women and girls affected by harassment. Mitchell has received national acclaim for her work mentoring women and girls of color to help them beat the odds and excel as leaders.

Mitchell is a graduate of Harvard Law School, the University of Southern California (USC), the USC Sol Price School of Public Policy (B.S.) and the USC Marshall School of Business (MBA).  She is a native of Los Angeles, California.

Website:  www.DrRayeMitchell.com

 

 

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Kairos: The Perfect Time for Love by Natasha D. Frazier

Kairos: The Perfect Time for Love
by Natasha D. Frazier

 

Listen to this amazing Women’s History Month interview with Natasha D. Frazier on BAN Radio Show – http://tobtr.com/s/10676309.  We discussed living The Life Your Spirit Craves and how often times God calls you to step into your purpose but you hesitate and hinder others from enjoying the gift of it.

 

There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens… Ecclesiastes 3:1

 

Kensi Jacobson believed in that truth with all of her heart, but when she’s up for a promotion for her dream job as assistant editor-in-chief of The Big Apple Chronicle, she hits a roadblock. She put in the work and trusted God for what she believed was her season of elevation, but her boss’ idea of a promotion was to send her to Pepperton, TX for another assignment. This new assignment pairs her up with a handsome widower, Darren Shaw, who helps her learn that delay and disappointment can sometimes become a catalyst for something greater.

Seemingly burdened with the fact that she is the only one in her circle who isn’t married with children and a career that isn’t headed in the direction she planned, she begins to wonder when her time and season are coming.

Will Kensi learn that Kairos – God’s perfect timing, is much more powerful than Chronos – her chronological timetable, and trust that things will fall into place at the right time? What begins as a crush to her ego and life plan may become the perfect time for love and everything else she’s wanted.

 

About the Author

Natasha D. Frazier accepted the call to write in 2011. Since then, Natasha has authored three devotional books. Her first book is The Life Your Spirit Craves, a 30-Day devotional and journal that encourages readers to seek, accept and pursue their God-given assignment. Her second book, Not Without You: 365 Days in the Lord’s Presence, encourages readers to make devotion a part of their everyday life by seeking God daily through prayer and reading His Holy Word. Not Without You has been nominated for the Henri Award. The Henri Award recognizes excellence in Christian literature.

The Life Your Spirit Craves for Mommies is a 52 week devotional for mothers that encourages them to see God at work in their lives through their role as a mother. Both devotionals in The Life Your Spirit Craves series won the Readers’ Choice Award presented at the Christian Literary Awards.

Natasha is also the author of the Love, Lies & Consequences, Christian-fiction series that focuses on real and relevant issues in today’s society, such as pre-marital sex, adultery, blended families and more! Currently, the series contains three published titles: Love, Lies & Consequences, Through Thick & Thin, and Shattered Vows. She is also the author of How Long Are You Going to Wait and Kairos: The Perfect Time for Love.

Natasha D. Frazier resides in Houston, TX metro area with her husband, Eddie Frazier, Jr. and their three children, Eden, Ethan, and Emilyn. Her greatest joy and commitment is to her family who she hopes to inspire above all else. One of her many mottos in life is: Faith removes limitations.

Natasha and her family are members of Higher Dimension Church in Houston, TX. Natasha is also a member of the Houston Area Alumni Chapter of Jackson State University and Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc.

 

Kairos: The Perfect Time for Love by Natasha D. Frazier
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Excerpt from Kairos: The Perfect Time for Love

 

It seemed as if most of the town had the same idea to head to the coffee shop after the tree lighting ceremony. There was only one table left in the place and it was closer to the door than they would have liked. Kensi held the table while Darren ordered their drinks. He returned to the table with a goofy smile plastered across his face. He draped his jacket over her shoulders and took the seat across from her.

“I’m sorry. This is not what I pictured when I asked you to have coffee with me. I was thinking nice and cozy, not dodging wind chills.. I won’t keep you here too long.” Spending a few moments with her here and there wasn’t working for him anymore. It was time he did something about that before it was too late.

“Believe it or not, I’m okay.” She smiled to reassure him.

Kensi wrapped her hands around the mug of caramel latte sitting in front of her and then rubbed her hands along her arms each time someone walked into the coffee shop. The gush of wind gave her chills and temporarily drowned out the sound of the holiday music playing over the speakers.

“You’re not the New Yorker I thought you were,” Darren teased.

“What kind of New Yorker did you think I was?”

Darren peered over his cup of hot chocolate at Kensi, careful to keep his eyes locked on hers while he took a sip. He could go on and continue beating around the bush about how he felt, but he knew all too well that the next minute wasn’t promised. He thought he had forever with Jessica and that proved not to be true.

“How about we not worry about what I thought and let me get a chance to see for myself? I want to date you, Kensi, seriously and exclusively, once your assignment is over.”

Kensi’s eyes grew wide with surprise. She took several sips of her latte in order to compose her thoughts and contemplate her response. She was aware that he was fond of her, and that feeling was mutual. However, she wasn’t expecting him to be so direct. In a matter of seconds, her mind went into complete overdrive as she pondered her decision. If she said no, that would go against all the whining that she’d done to God a few weeks ago about her turn for happiness.

But saying yes could mean that she would likely have to move to Pepperton if things went well. She’d need a new job. She’d have to give up New York and months of the cold weather that she loved so much plus she’d be even farther away from her family.
She closed her eyes for a moment to calm down and reel her mind back into the present. Although those things were important, that could easily be worked out later. She liked him, so she owed it to herself to see if their relationship could grow wings.

“I’d like that too,” she finally answered.

“Good. You had me worried here for a second,” Darren said with a nervous chuckle.

“I’m looking forward to spending more time getting to know the woman behind the camera and the pencil.”

“Of course you are!” Kensi joked, breaking up the seriousness of the moment.

Darren reached across the table and squeezed her hand. Tomorrow was the theatrical production and he had never looked forward to it more than he was now. Closing the curtains after the Christmas program tomorrow set the stage for them to move forward to see what life had in store for the two of them-together.

———

To get away from the town’s eyes, Kensi and Darren went to Houston for their first official date. After early morning church service, they set off to spend the day having fun without everyone in Pepperton watching their every move. They wanted to enjoy each other’s company without the questioning looks or those who felt comfortable enough to simply ask if they were dating.

Upon Raegan’s suggestion, their first stop was at the Breakfast Klub. When they arrived, patrons were standing in a line wrapped around the small yellow building.

“Are you sure we’re in the right place?” Darren asked, circling the building trying to find a parking space.

“Yea,” Kensi answered, checking the GPS on her phone. “Raegan said there may be a line, but it moves fast. Apparently that is all part of the experience.”

“Well, we have nothing but time today, so let’s check it out,” Darren said as he pulled into a parking space in a muddy parking lot across the street. “Before you get out, let me come around to check that area near your door. It’s quite a bit of mud around here.”

Darren dodged a couple of muddy sections in the grass and went around to help Kensi out of the car. Luckily there was only a small puddle of mud near her door and he helped her over it by allowing her to use his arm to steady herself.

The duo walked side by side to the restaurant to get a place in line. Before making it to the end, a familiar voice called out to her. She had been so focused on getting in line that she didn’t hear her name until Darren mentioned it. They turned around to see Raegan and Caleb waving to them. She should have expected to see them after mentioning that they would be coming to Houston.

“We saved you guys a spot in line,” Raegan said after giving Kensi a tight squeeze. She then whispered to Kensi, “Now you know that I wouldn’t have missed the opportunity to see who my friend was taking road trips with, right? I love you,” she said and squeezed once more before pulling away.

“Introduce us, Kensi,” Caleb interjected.

Kensi shook her head, smiled and proceeded with introductions. Caleb shook hands with Darren and Raegan greeted him with a friendly one-armed hug. Kensi stopped and spoke to the couple standing behind them, because she didn’t want people getting offended because they skipped line. The couple was warm and friendly, holding a conversation with the group until they made it to the front of the line to place their orders.

Scanning the menu, Darren asked, “What’s good?”

“Everything. You can’t go wrong with anything on the menu. Cami got me hooked on this place while she was pregnant. I can’t tell you how many times I had to bring her out for the wings and waffles or place a to-go order. They should know us by name as much time and money as we spent here,” Caleb answered.

Darren ordered the wings and waffles, while Kensi ordered the shrimp and grits. Raegan and Caleb both ordered the wings and waffles, along with the famous cappuccino. They found an empty table to seat four, sat down and chatted while waiting for their breakfast.

“Darren, I’m sorry we’re imposing on your time with Kensi, but when she mentioned that you guys were coming, I suddenly had a taste for wings and waffles. It is so good!” Raegan apologized and praised the food.

“They’re best friends, Darren. She’s not sorry. She’s coming to check you out, but the food is good,” Caleb countered, and everyone chuckled.

“It’s cool. It’s probably a good idea that we all get to know each other. Maybe you can convince her to move to Texas.”

“Y’all know I’m a city girl, specifically a New York City girl. No Pepperton, Texas, for me,” Kensi added. Raegan sat across from her and they had a conversation without saying a word. They both knew that given the right conditions, she’d leave New York.

“We’ll see about that,” Darren added and took a sip of cappuccino.

Raegan took the reins of the conversation and questioned Darren about his background, where he grew up, why he moved to Pepperton, his future plans and where he saw Kensi fitting into those plans. As much as she enjoyed the food, she didn’t stop her interrogation when it arrived.

Darren answered her questions as if he’d been preparing for them his whole life. His responses were perfect, almost too perfect in Raegan’s opinion. Though he didn’t appear to be the type who would treat Kensi badly, Raegan didn’t want this to turn out to be another Rico type situation. He was far from that type, but it made Raegan wonder if he was hiding something too.

“Well that was intense!” Kensi finally added when Raegan finished her line of questioning. Neither Caleb nor Kensi stopped Raegan, only piggybacked on a question here or there.

“Nah it’s all good. She’s just looking out for you. Any good friend would have done the same thing. Besides, I’d probably be concerned if she didn’t grill me like a piece of meat,” Darren said and chuckled. The others burst into laughter at his comment and commenced friendly chatter until Raegan and Caleb had to leave and get back to their children.

Caleb and Darren left tips for the waitress before rising from the table and meeting the ladies out front. Kensi and Raegan had walked out just minutes before them, using the excuse of needing to use the restroom to talk privately.

Kensi and Raegan were standing in front of the building to the right of the long line that seemed to have no end. Raegan gave her smile of approval to Kensi after offering a few encouraging words.

“I like him for you, Kens. He seems really nice. I wasn’t trying to embarrass you, but you know I’ve learned my lesson from not asking enough questions.”

“Amen. I think our entire circle learned from you,” Kensi agreed.

“If I can help you avoid a Rico situation, you best believe I’m going to be inspector gadget.”

“And amen again,” Kensi agreed and chuckled.

“Bring Darren by again sometime, Kens, if you all have the time,” Caleb said when they caught up to the women standing outside. “It was good to meet you bro.” Caleb shook Darren’s hand once more after the couple hugged Kensi and bid their goodbyes.

When Caleb and Raegan reached their car, Raegan asked, “So what do you really think about him?”

“I think that given enough time, he could be a good match for our little Kensi.”

“Stop talking about her as if she’s a little girl,” Raegan said and giggled after swatting his shoulder. “Maybe she’s found her perfect match, just like we did.”

Caleb agreed by leaning across the center console and pressing his lips against hers. If Kensi had finally found what they had, she should count herself blessed.

“I guess we’ll see. Let’s get home to our babies.”

( Continued… )

 

Kairos: The Perfect Time for Love by Natasha D. Frazier
Download from Amazon:  https://www.amazon.com/dp/B079H691LM

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